Truth on Christian Salvation & Accepting Jesus Christ

The first step to becoming a Christian, is to accept Jesus death in your place. Accept that he died for the forgiveness of your sins and ask him to save you. It simply involves asking Jesus into your life. God can't accept sin. If Christ didn't die on the cross, everybody would go to Hell. He died for the human race because he loves his chosen people, and so everyone has an opportunity to be saved. The only way man can be saved is through Christ choosing us and taking our sins in substitution so we can be sinless in God's sight. Jesus, who is the Son of God, is our bridge to the father. If we obey him and he chooses us, Jesus cleanses us from our sins by his blood.

We need to seek and obey God to have a good chance of being chosen. We need to believe in Jesus to be saved. Believing means sincerely following and doing what God commands, or at least honestly trying and seeking to do it. Seeking and doing his will should be first priority. It is a life of self denial, where everything you do or receive should be for his purpose, and not for your own. If you are chosen and living for Jesus, the life to come will be Heaven. It will be Hell, a choice of eternal separation from God if you are not. You should not be part of the things that are highly esteemed among men in this world, such as keeping excess money for yourself to use on your pleasures. There is a glorious future in Heaven but no happy future on Earth. Your focus should be on eternal things and not on earthly things.To be a Christian you must hate sin, not take pleasure in it, and ask for God's help not to do it. We have all sinned. Therefore we must confess and seek forgiveness with a desire to repent, which is turning from sin. Even as a Christian you are tempted by evil, and can fall down. Our priority should be to try to spread God's word to others either indirectly or directly. Jesus Christ is our example, and his Apostles who were divinely led, are also an example for us to follow. Don't look to people who call themselves Christians today as examples, as probably only a very small percentage of them are true Christians.

Becoming a Christian gives you the joy of sharing the truth with people. But it does not mean that you will have few problems or that few things will go wrong in this life. If we are chosen our reward is in Heaven for doing God's will. Don't be put off if you cannot convert anyone as Lot who was a believer in God in the Old Testament could not. God may not answer prayers the way you want. Many Christians suffer for doing God's will. This is a test which strengthens their faith, commitment and love from God. You must keep trying to do God's will despite the circumstances. You can only go by what is said in the Bible, not always by what people say. However, it is to be acknowledged we should praise God despite circumstances, and share his message with others. Even if none of your friends believe, you will still have many people in Heaven to become your friends if you go to Heaven. If you go to Hell nobody will be your friend. Even if you have been the most evil person, you can still repent and become a Christian.

What Went Wrong? When Relationships Go From Hot To Cold

What Went Wrong? When Relationships Go From Hot To Cold
What happened? What did I do? I don't know what to think.


Does the above scenario sound at all familiar? If
so, you can relate to being confused and stunned
over the sudden change in a boyfriend's/girlfriend's
behavior.

Now think about this - What if your relationship
wasn't what you thought it was? What if unspoken
issues had existed all along? What if there were
signs you chose to ignore or just didn't see? Are
any of these possible?

Probably.

This sudden change in a couple's relationship is
reported quite a bit by individuals who have just
broken up with a significant other. Unfortunately, it
leaves the person who has been "dumped" with
feelings of low self-esteem, regret, inadequacy and
anger.

There is often no real closure, as the couple is
never able (willing) to talk through what went wrong
or was never right with their relationship.

So, how can you know what the problem was and
hope to avoid a repeat of this hurtful experience?
You can do this by examining your failed
relationship and gaining insight and understanding
about what just wasn't right between you.

In order to assist you with this; I am providing a
basic framework of the relationship stages a couple
must pass through TOGETHER in order to get to a
place of shared intimacy and commitment. If either
person's feelings change before, during or after one
of these stages; it is not necessarily the "fault" of
the other individual. It is simply a statement about
the individuals' rightness (or not) for each other. It
is also a reflection of each individual's relationship
readiness and ability to handle long-term,
committed intimacy.

How an individual handles their changing feelings
and resultant behavior toward the other is a subject
for another article.

Relationships have stages. We have all read
articles and books by authors who have come up
with their own unique number or names for these. I
will try to take a very basic approach to this and
keep it simple and as universal as possible.

Attraction

This is the first stage. It is physical, intellectual
and emotional - on a very surface level. Girl sees
boy and vice versa. They flirt, talk and get a very
basic sense of the other. They are usually
responding to a physical pull. He/she is cute,
funny, charming, interesting to talk to, etc.

Without attraction, first dates wouldn't happen. It
can therefore be assumed that the other person
finds us attractive if we have gotten to a first date.

In a way, this is the easy one. We are unknowns
to each other. Things progress from this point or
they do not. Hurt feelings are minimal. We usually
chalk up rejection to; "I'm not his type". There is no
need to analyze or wonder what went wrong.

If both people feel a strong enough level of
attraction continues to exist after a few dates, they
usually move along to stage two. However, if one
finds the other has unattractive characteristics or
behaviors, this can lead to an abrupt change in the
relationship.

Remember, these behaviors or characteristics
would be ones that would manifest in the very early
stage of dating.

Some examples: frequently late, never offers to
pay, dresses or grooms sloppily, rude to waitress,
etc.

Romantic Relating

In this second stage, couples begin to test out the
idea of themselves as a unit. Dating is no longer
brand new. It is more comfortable and predictable.
Sharing romantic dinners and exciting special
interests are typical dates during this new and fun
time in a growing relationship.

During this stage, flowers are given for no special
reason and loving cards are slipped back and forth
with words like "thinking of you". It's a happy
carefree time, when lovers tend to idealize,
romanticize and overlook that which can be right in
front of them. The relationship seems effortless and
spontaneous. Affection is shared openly and
frequently. One's partner seems perfect. There is
rarely conflict during this period. The partners often
share the unrealistic belief that their relationship is
so special and unique that it will always stay this
way.

This stage can last from three or four months up to
more than a year. It is actually the shortest stage
that any long-term relationship goes through. It is
also the one we wish we could hold on to forever
and long for when it is gone. This is the stage that
love poems speak about. It is also believed (falsely)
by many that this is what long-term committed love
will always be like.

Many relationships begin to stumble at the end of
this period. For that is when reality begins to set
in. As partners begin to experience some
disagreement, conflict and/or shared challenges-
the relationship shifts as do the dynamics between
the partners.

Though many relationships move past this stage, a
number do not. Why? There are many reasons.
These can include:

lack of readiness for the challenges of the next
stage
issues with commitment and fidelity
immature beliefs about what relationships should
be
being stuck on an idealized, romanticized notion of
love
If one of the partners is not ready for a less than
perfect and more demanding stage of love, they will
exhibit this in their behavior, language and overall
level of openness and availability towards the other.

This is when the couple begins to think more
seriously of a future with each other. The focus
tends to be; how well do we get along, do we share
similar interests and do I want to date this person
exclusively?

Growth Through Negotiation

This is a very challenging and growing time in all
relationship building. Reality comes into play as
the couple settles into the comfort and
predictability of their togetherness. Little issues
can become blown-up into large conflicts. The
individuals begin to compete for their share of
control and their place in this growing union.
Differences can become highlighted instead of
minimized.

This is often the period when couples experience
their first fight. Hurt feelings can occur as that once
loving and completely accepting other person airs a
criticism or voices annoyance or concern. Often,
the individuals believe it is the other person who
needs to change.

This is where the need for (or lack of)
communication, problem-solving and negotiating
skills becomes apparent. For without an adequate
measure of these, disagreements can break down
into screaming matches where insults and
recriminations are fired like missiles.

If the individuals can listen, be supportive of each
other's feelings, compromise and not lay blame,
they have a good chance of working through this
stage and achieving a true intimacy. This does not
mean they will share all the same beliefs and
opinions or that they will necessarily even like the
other's view. However, having and showing respect
is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship.

Not only will relationships fail without these
relationship-building strengths, they can also
abruptly end if one of the partners decides that
they don't feel the same way about this person in
their less than idealized state. The reality may not
be to their liking or just something they are not
ready for in general. Either way, they will pull back,
present differently or disappear without warning.
How they handle their changing feelings is further
information about their level of relationship
readiness and maturity in general.

Intimacy

Intimacy is the reward that is gained when a couple
has successfully worked through the difficult last
stage of negotiation. It is almost like a new coming
together with much greater self (and other)
awareness. This new information can work to
solidify the union or give one of both individuals
enough new information about the other to require a
reassessment of their desire to remain together.

Each person looks at the other in their (naked)
state and asks; "is this the person I want to be
with"? Here their individual differences are
highlighted. The early romantic haze has cleared.
What they have to offer to each other and to a
future life together comes into play.

This is a time when couples often begin to
contemplate each other's attributes in a more
practical way. They look at the other's strengths
and weaknesses. They evaluate each other's
potential as a future spouse, parent, provider,
caregiver, partner, etc.

Relationships can be tested more during this time.
Infidelity is one dysfunctional way that some
individuals do this. Often, this leads to the end of
the relationship.

When differences can be seen, aired and
accepted, the couple has a good chance of moving
on together from this place. Essentially, they have
decided they want to be with the other, warts and
all.

When the behavior of one or both partners change,
it is generally because they have made a
conscious or unconscious decision regarding the
wrongness of the other for them or for the type of
relationship they seek.

Commitment

This is the final stage of relationship building. Once
individuals have reached this place, they are ready
to cement their bond. While much growth and work
will lay ahead in a future life together, they are
ready to begin this life soon.

New challenges arise during each stage, and will
happen here as well. However, if the couple has
successfully worked through the previous stages,
they should have many of the tools they need.

The external problems and pressures that come
with life will test their resolve and commitment over
the years. They may need to reassess, re-
negotiate and renew their feelings and
commitment. Fortunately, they will be in
possession of the basic tools required.

If they choose well to begin with, they should be
successful.

As you evaluate your failed relationship, note the
stage you were in when the change occurred.
Chances are that the necessary level of readiness
and maturity was not present in one or both of you.
Perhaps one of you decided that this is not the
kind of partner or relationship I am seeking.

No Pointing Fingers

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

Great Teachings

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>UGMA NALANG ANG UBAN...SUCH A GREAT TEACHINGS...INDEED!

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Why do some people juz u know mind their own business but they still keep on bullshitting someone's personal life. Sad sad sad life! i just dont get it! They just keep on hurting others and even leaving prints of shitzzzz.
Jokno's birthday! i gave him a wake-up birthday kiss(wink), got him a nice bobson shirt, made him a strawberry milk shake(sall good), and bought him a cake from goldilocks and how was that.. Was that sweet enough? wahihihi.
Hahay pagka hayahay ba jud ni roxanne nadawat na jud cya sa Magsaysay. Singapore based. And on May 5 daw adto na cla sa Singapore mag duty na jud sila Starcruise ship. And how was that again???

geesh

My goolay i got failed sa civil service sus mg take pa jud unta ko ug foreign service exam hehehe ambitiosa..mau pa jokno ngets pasar..but k lang japun pra mka work cya governtment and mas higher ang salary wahehehe, kai murag lang tanan salary ni jokno napaingon ra sa baby hehehe..ani jud diay ni oi..basta minyo na u could not think of yourself but your family..especially na si lee is getting bigger and taller..mahal na ang milk na GAIN, cerelac, diaper, vitamins...and he's 7 months now and he can speak "ate", mama sometimes dada and papa..tough job jud ang naay baby but at the same time ga enjoy ka..sometimes down kau imong feelings kai dli nka mka laag-laag ug basta pero if mka laag na mingawon pud sa baby..haaaay, its so hard to be a mom..hehehe

heart warming libre lol

i dont have anything to say for the last few days, i just dont feel like doing anything. well sa valentines day i just spent it with my family and my baby lee. we cook something for valentines. i cook clam chowder while c mama nag luto ug lumpia na perteng lamia. hehehe! my husband left for work the whole day and after diritso na dayon sa cafe...huhuhu somehow my valentines day was so lonely...well sa pagka-karon im happy to meet a guy friend. actually ka chat sa gf sa akong kuya. cute bya pud, nka daghan burloloy na mga silver. sosyal ug fone. and the best thing was gi libre mi niya sa inilog. dapat lang hehehe. i had chicken bbq and sizzling sisig, ouch! and he had bbq na pork chop and kinilaw..as in iya-iya jud mi ug sud-an...then we invited him sa cafe then bomb kau cya na minyo nman diay ko waahehehehehe. hanggat pa unta cya na mag inom wla nalng so he headed at philtown hotel to rest..poor guy.

Rons maka ibog man pud diay imong valentines day...akong husband wala jud pagka sweet na ga run sa iyang blood! hehehe JOKZ JOKZ JOKZ.. CGE UY mag full time mom nalang sa ko ani...okay gihapon para bonding sa ako son ug husband..mag unsa nalang kaha dayon mi if naa nako work dli na dayon quality time..huh!...grin!